I got to be a part of Paul Byrom history.

A couple of months ago my daughter and I attended the taping of a PBS special. In case you don't know who Paul Byrom is, he is a singer from Ireland, recently relocated to NY, who has one of the most amazing tenor voices you will ever have the privileged to hear. Paul was, up until a couple years ago a member of Celtic Thunder. A 5 member group of Irish and Scottish entertainers that began touring the US 5 years ago. I happened to catch a PBS show of Celtic Thunder about 3 years ago and to say I was hooked is a drastic understatement. I've attended several of their concerts over the years and have loved every second of it. Now, I was a little behind the times because the year I started attending their concerts, is the year Paul left the group to launch his solo career. He did attend the NYC concert that year and I got to meet him in the lobby of the venue. From that day on I've followed his career and done everything I can to help. While I think he deserves his star to shine brightly I also think everyone, ever, deserves to listen to his voice. I've attended every show he's done anywhere within a 3 hours drive. He is so much more than a singer. He is an entertainer of the first water. He interacts with his audience, tells stories, and jokes and does his level best to make sure every person in that room, be they 10 or 100 male or female has a night to remember. He genuinely enjoys being on that stage and you can't help but be drawn into his particular brand of magic when you see him perform. The whole room has "the craic" (an Irish term for fun) I have, along with many other people, tweeted, shared, facebooked, and screamed from the rooftops to get word out about his music. Several months ago Paul decided the time was right for him to tape a PBS special to help further his career. He had to do some fundraising to accomplish the goal and it took everything he had to have to ask people to help. Charging for show tickets was one thing but asking for money outright was very difficult for him. He did however offer different thank you gifts for any and all donation given. He made sure that if you could donate $20 or $1,000 you knew how grateful he was for your help. Paul has been very open and available with his fans from day one. I've had the opportunity on several occasions, to chat with him and get to know him just a little bit, and he is without a doubt one of the kindest, most caring, most genuine people I've ever met. In all honesty, I'm glad I got to know his music after his time with Celtic Thunder. I'm glad I've only known and been a wee part of his solo career. I am, for all intents and purposes a Paul purist :-) So, fast forward to Pennsylvania a couple of months ago. The money had been raised, the date set, and it was time to see his hard work come to fruition. I had the great privileged of being able to attend the taping with my daughter. The cameras were on, the orchestra was set and Paul came out on stage. This was it, this is what he and everyone had worked so hard for. This was his time. And I had front row seats (well, third row, but you get my meaning) to watch history unfold. There was an electric feeling in that room. We all knew we were seeing something extraordinary. When the special airs on PBS and you can buy the DVD, you will be able to have a glimps of what I mean. But there will never be anything that will compare to actually being in that room, with those people, watching him, Damian McGinty and the great Phil Coulter on that stage. There are a few amazing moments that are burned into my memory. When he sang "This is the Moment" That one made me cry. The first three notes came out of his mouth and I teared up. He put his whole heart into that one. All I could think was, "yep Paul this is your moment. This is it kiddo, and it is spectacular." Then he sang Danny Boy. Yea, so anyone who knows me well knows that one of my earliest memories of my dad is when I was about 2 or 3 and he was washing my hair in the tub singing that song. I heard him sing it a few times over the years and have come to think of it as Daddy's song. My dad died a couple of years ago and I will never get to hear him sing it again. I don't want that memory tainted, I want to remember always what his voice sounded like when he sang it. With this in mind, as my personal tribute to my dad, I will never listen to anyone sing that song again. I've been to gigs before where that song was sung, and I simply leave to room during that song and reenter when it's over. I make sure I sit to the side where my leaving won't be disruptive. But, here I was, third row, cameras rolling and he starts singing Danny boy. I imagine I looked rather like a deer in the headlights. I couldn't leave, I couldn't do that to him. There would be no unobtrusive exit. The only thing I could do was concentrate on something else so I wouldn't hear it. So I added. :-) I added 47+93 and 428+216 I added any two sets of numbers I could think of that would make me concentrated. And then it hit me that when you concentrate really hard on something, you tend to get that far away look on your face. Not a good look on camera. Hey, look at that girl, she's not even paying attention. So, then I had to concentrate on keeping that look off my face while I added. I'm here to tell ya, with all that going on in my head I didn't hear a note. Then he sang "Scorn not his Simplicity" a song written by Phil Coulter about his son. The love and compassion we all felt was palpable. You could almost see it grow and envelope Phil on that stage. And you could tell Phil felt it,was moved by it and grateful for it. And one of the cutest things I've ever seen is Paul and Damian singing "Me and My Shadow". Absolutely brilliant. He sang for hours. He put everything he had and everything he was into it. We took a break, and the set was changed and there was a bonus for those buying the DVD :-) No spoiler alerts here. You'll just have to buy it and see for yourself. Attending this taping was truly amazing. It is not something I believe I will ever see or feel again. I am eternally grateful that I had this opportunity. I am grateful I have had a chance to help him in the little ways I have. I am grateful that others will get to see and hear him. I'm grateful that I have a love for music, especially Irish music. But mostly, I'm grateful that Paul is Paul. He's a pretty spectacular individual and I'm blessed to know him.

The perfect gift. Or, Steiner Sports makes me look gooooddddd.

Okay, so you know how every occasion you want to find that perfect gift? You think and look and search and wrack your brains. And if you're very luck you find a really good gift. But for the most part a perfect gift for whatever occasion you are purchasing or making a gift for you never quite achieve perfection. Well, last year, I found the Holy Grail of anniversary gifts. Well, if you're a football fan and more specifically, a New York Giants fan. I need to take you back in time a wee bit so you will fully understand what we have here. Way back, many moons ago, when I was very young, okay I wasn't that young but work with me here I'm tellin' a tale, I'm Irish and I get artistic license in the tellin' of me own tale. Now, where was I? Oh yea, I was young. It was April, 1987 and my "bestie" as a best friend is referred to now, was getting married. And I, also being her bestie,(how convenient huh)was one of the bridesmaids in her wedding. And she was to wed a man from New York. . As with all weddings, the bride had her friends stand with her and the groom had his friends stand with him at the altar to witness this joyous occasion. There were seven of us on each side, no chance of "take backs" or "I never said that" here. :-) It was just in this particular instance, we were importing the men over on that side of the room from New York. You see, I grew up in small town Colorado. I loved 3 things. My family, the mountains, and the Denver Broncos. Now, a horrible, horrible thing happened in January of that year. The New York Giants had beaten my Broncos,(yes they were mine,no matter what Pat Boland thought)in the Super Bowl. It was tragic, really. Hey I was 16, tragedy was a relative term. Anyway, so the men flew in and I got a call reporting on the one I was to be paired up with for the weekend. Yes, dear reader this tale just took a turn for the sappy, we did meet at a wedding. But I digress. So, I received intel that this man, this person I was to spend the next 5 days with had actually deplaned in Stapleton airport dressed in Giants gear from head to toe. At which point, I seriously considered doing a runaway bridesmaid. There was no way I was spending 5 days with a Giants fan. Seriously, a Giants fan? What had I ever done to Karma? However, remember where I grew up. We all had gun racks in our pickups. She had brothers. I liked breathing. So, I decided that 5 days wasn't so bad and I could do this. Fast forward 5 years and I finally got my revenge. We got everyone back together, switched up places, and I married him! Yea me. Shortly after, as in two days after, I moved to New York with my brand new husband. And within a year or two my loyalties moved to New York also and I am now what can only be referred to as a Die Hard Giants fan. No, really. My toaster toasts the Giants logo onto the bread. It has become an illness. My children say goodbye at the beginning of every football season. Now, fast forward again to last August. It was our 21st Anniversary and we would be spending it at the stadium watching a preseason game. Our anniversary was days away and I was on the hunt for a gift for him. What, you thought only guys wait until the last minute to get anniversary gifts? What could I get him that he'd like and would have meaning? But most importantly, would get here on time. When in doubt, go to google. Considering where we were going to be I thought sports memorabilia would be good. Something from the year we met would be better. Enter Steiner Sports and my personal angel JJ Molesso. I searched the website for something from the year we met hoping I could get something unique with an autograph if I was lucky. Suddenly, there it was. The holy grail of anniversary gifts. "THE" perfect gift. The thing I'd sell a kidney to get him. Cue the choir of angels. It was a full size helmet signed by 29 of the 1986 NY Giants. But it would take a week to get here. I had to have it. I had to be able to give him this helmet in the parking lot of the stadium. I HAD to. So, I called the number provided for help and JJ Molesso answered the phone. I babbled at him like a toddler who couldn't form complete sentences yet, about the helmet and the anniversary and the time crunch and the HAVE to thing. He was so helpful and wonderful. He very calmly talked the blathering idiot off the ledge, got the pertinent information from me and then said " you know, if you want, you can come get this. I'll pull it and put it in the office for you to come and get, you're only about an hour or so away" So, the next day off I went to get the helmet. I was in and out in minutes and drove home like I had my first newborn in the car. He loved it. He took it everywhere for weeks and showed it to everyone. I am secure in the knowledge that I have managed to give the perfect gift. Wait..... I've given the perfect gift. It's done. There's nothing I can ever do to top that. We're going to have another anniversary this year. And we'll be spending it at the stadium for a preseason game. (the Jets no less) I wonder if they'd notice if I sneaked him into the locker room to meet the team? Anyone got bail money? Just in case. Anyone?

Listen to your mother. She knows what she's talking about.

I can't count how many times I've answered the question "how come s/he gets to?" The usual answers are, " because s/he is (insert age here) and you're not" "There are privileged that come with age." Or "you don't always get everything everyone else gets" these answers are my standard go to reasons although every now and then I throw in a new one just to make sure everyone is paying attention and not tuning out the droning in their ear that is their mothers voice. Then of course there is the other end of the spectrum. "I didn't get to do that when I was her age" "I didn't get to have one of those until I was (insert age here)" "I didn't get to watch that when I was her age" My usual answer to these are "you didn't have much older siblings" "would you prefer no one gets to do it because I can't be in both places" and varieties there of. My youngest will be 10 in a few weeks. I bought her a used nook off ebay this morning for her birthday. I can already hear the complaints in my head. This is a clear violation of the rules. None of the others were allowed an electronic device of this caliber at this age. And she's probably going to loose it more than once. One of the stipulations before this has been that you have to be old enough and responsible enough to take are of such things. And at 10 none of them were or I suppose are. But as I was deciding if I should get it for her or not, it occurred to me that there is a vast difference between being the oldest at 10 and the youngest at 10. The farther down in the line they are the faster they grow up. By virtue of having 4 older siblings, she's been exposed to more things along the way at a younger age. Let's face it, it's completely impractical to have 2 different sets of rules in the house. And it's just easier to take her to see Iron Man 3 with the family than it is to make them all go to see My Little Pony as a family. But in the end, she's beyond My Little Pony and she's beyond Leap Pad. She's beyond Rugrats and Avatar. She's way more advanced and mature than they were at her age. Which is in itself an experiment in the nature vs. nurture thing. They all grew up in the same family, with the same parents, under the same circumstances. She's not any smarter than they were at her age, but due to being exposed to different things than they were, is more advanced. So, in the end, I've decided that she can have a nook. Partly because I feel bad she's the only one that doesn't have something like it. Partly because I'm tired of settling arguments when she wants to play with one of her siblings devices and they won't let her. Partly because I'm tired of her playing on my phone all the time. But mostly, I'm old and tired people and just can't keep up with who got to do what at what age any more. I now have a new phrase for my children. One I heard from my mother more times than I can count when I was growing up. "In 20 years you'll understand" You were right mom, I do understand now. And I am now passing down your wisdom to the next generation. In 20 years they'll understand.

I don't chew tobacco and I don't wear camouflage

I lost a friend today. No he didn't go to that great armory in the sky. He just made a request, more of a statement really, that in good conscious I had to follow. His request was along the line of "if you support the NRA, get out of my life you, sully it" It was a general post to everyone on his Facebook page. It was not directed to any particular person. I had the feeling it was a knee jerk reaction to the fact that the Senate didn't pass the background checks for guns. I had a feeling he meant if you support the lobbying the NRA does I don't want to be friends with you. At least I hoped that's what he meant. I hoped if he knew, he wouldn't have put it quite that way. I hoped that our friendship was something of value to him as it is for me. I almost ignored it. I did for a little while. But then my sense of honesty and integrity kicked it. Along with a sneaking suspicion I was being a coward. Darn it. I was going to have to do what he asked and go away. Having such a strong sense of right and wrong, and being brought up to understand that in most cases there is no gray area when it comes to such things, really sucks sometimes. A thing is either right or it's wrong. Simple as that. And keeping my mouth shut was cowardly, and that gets chalked up on the wrong side of the score card. So, I screwed up my courage, because I knew the finality of what I was about to do. And frankly I really really didn't want to do it. He is my friend and he's a really great guy, and he's sweet and he's a lot of fun to hang out with and he does wonderful things for people in need. And I knew I was going to miss him. And it hurt that because I am who I am he no longer wanted to be my friend. But, I support the NRA. Have all my life. Now, let me stop here for a minute and explain that viewpoint. Because, seriously, I don't own not one piece of camouflage. See, the NRA is way more than the idiots running it. It started almost 200 years ago. 185 to be exact I believe. And it was founded on the believe that every citizen of these United States has the right to own and use guns to protect themselves. We have the right to protect ourselves from The Son of Sam, and Uncle Sam. With the belief that we all have the right to live in peace the way we chose with the beliefs we chose. And we didn't want anyone coming in and trying to tell us how to do it. Like everything else in life it has evolved over the years. And what most people think of when they think of the NRA is the lobbyists in Washington who have more money than sense. They think we are all gun totin' tobacco chewin' camo wearin' lunatics that have a bomb shelter and a stockpile of weapons in our back yard. And we all walk around looking like Rambo wannabes with Jessie James attitudes. And that couldn't be farther from the truth. It's also the people in the community who teach people about guns and gun safety. They teach people how to care for and shoot a gun. They teach children safety and respect for guns. They teach us all to respect the fact that it is a weapon, meant to kill, and the gravity of that decision should you choose to make it. They do a lot for their communities in their area. None of these programs would be possible without the membership and monetary backing of a large organization. These people are also members of the PTA and they belong to Unions and countless other organizations. We are just like everyone else. I don't currently own a gun nor does anyone else in the house. We had a LOT of young kids for a lot of years and I just didn't feel comfortable having them in the house. Heck, I don't even let my kids play with water guns. Because GUNS ARE NOT TOYS. A water bottle works just as well on a hot summer day. Personally I don't have a problem with background checks. Maybe they'd do some good. Not to keep criminals from getting a gun. None of us are stupid enough to think they won't get them anyway. But say, a guy gets mad and on a whim decided to go buy a gun and shoot his wife. Give him a couple days to think on it and get over his mad and maybe he'll decide he didn't really want to shoot her after all. Lives saved. It's a good thing. I don't believe anyone outside of a war zone needs an assault weapon. Because frankly, if you need more than 10 bullets to take someone down who's coming at you. You can't shoot worth shit and need to get your sorry ass to a shooting range and work on your aim. There I was with my little cursor on the unfriend button. Having quite the internal war with myself. Because while I support the NRA, I don't support the idiots running it. Kinda of like how I support and love my country. But not so much the idiots running it. I've often said the worst thing that ever happened to this country was when politician became a profession. That gave birth to lobbyists and nothing has been quite right around here since. But, I apparently couldn't have it both ways. So, I lost my friend. I talked to a couple of people about it. Which is big for me because I don't talk about my personal life much. Oh people know what I'm making for dinner, and when I'm running to pick up kids and when my husband is getting on my last nerve. But I don't talk about who I know, what I believe, or the really important things in my life. But this bothered me enough to mention it to a couple of people and a comment was made that someone was surprised because she would never have pegged me as an NRA member because I didn't fit the stereotype. That I found fascinating. First, that I was a "type" at all. Let's be frank here, I'm a middle aged housewife with 5 kids. I thought I was long past being anyone's "type" ;-) And second that stereotypes are still going strong in this country. Not that I wasn't aware that they do, I just never thought of them in reference to me. No matter how hard we try and ignore it and pretend it doesn't exist, humans tend to put each other in neat little categories based on what we think we know about them. It's been a a few days since I started writing this and I received a gift in the mail as a thank you from my friend for something I'd done before all this happened and mailed out before all this happened. I wasn't expecting it and it made me cry a bit. Because it was a very sweet thing to do for me and because I couldn't just jump on the computer and tell him how much I appreciated it. It is something I will treasure forever. It will remind me to do good things for others always, to treasure every friend I have because I never know when they are going to leave my life and to try my best always not to categorize people because in the end we truly don't know someones story. I can say now that while I am still sad about it all, I do hope maybe some day we will be friends again. Everyone deserves a second chance, everyone makes mistakes. Even us camo wearin' tobacco chewin' members of the NRA. In the mean time, I wish everyone the best life has to offer. Be good to each other and remember that golden rule we were all taught as children. It's worth remembering.